Defining Success: Discovering Fulfilment Beyond Money and Power
"Success!" That mystique-laden word often conjures images of power, prestige, and wealth. But have you truly defined what success means to you personally?
The conventional narrative often limits success to these superficial outcomes, yet it’s a well-observed paradox that many who reach these benchmarks remain unfulfilled. Have you, or someone you know, ever realised that your ladder of success was leaning against the wrong wall?
What is your own definition of success?
This subject resurfaced in a recent conversation with a friend at a career crossroads, contemplating his next steps in life's grand journey. Reflecting on this, an epiphany struck me: success is about 'gaining wisdom and understanding'. Inspired by Arianna Huffington’s insights in "Thrive," she argues,
“Success is commonly defined as money and power, but increasingly that’s not enough. It’s almost like a two-legged stool where you fall over if that’s all you measure your life by.”
Wisdom, she suggests, frees us from the narrow confines dictated by the traditional metrics of success.
In my pursuit of a redefined success, I've encountered three transformative quotes that have reshaped my understanding:
Growth through Learning: “We are not what we know but what we are willing to learn.” Embracing growth means committing to continual personal development. As Jim Rohn eloquently puts it, “Success is not a doing process; it is a becoming process. What you do, what you pursue, will elude you – it can be like chasing butterflies. Success is something you attract by the person you become.” Are you committed to growth? What is your personal growth plan? What new knowledge are you acquiring right now?
The Power of Listening: “Learn to listen and you will grow wise.” Good listeners are rare. Often, we're more focused on our next response rather than truly absorbing what is being shared. Developing active listening skills is key to building connections, rapport, and advocacy—all crucial for success across various facets of life, including relationships, leadership, and parenting. True listening extends beyond words to understanding emotions, tones, body language, and context.
Valuing Questions Over Answers: “Look to the question, not the answer.” Early in my career, I was reluctant to ask questions, fearing it might expose my ignorance. Later, I mistakenly believed that having all the answers was a mark of competent leadership. However, as Confucius noted, “The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life.” Embracing curiosity and asking quality questions can lead to better answers, deeper understanding, and innovative ideas.
What does success mean to you?
Successful individuals often choose growth consciously and deliberately plan their development. They apply themselves fully every day, using what they have to its fullest potential. Benjamin Franklin said it best,
“One today is worth two tomorrows; what I am to be, I am now becoming.”
To make a significant impact, focus on today. Dedicate time to learning, listening, and questioning. Take actions that build your knowledge, enhance your skills, improve your character, and elevate your self-perception. Your actions today lay the groundwork for tomorrow’s success.
Carpe Diem!
Stay inspired and lead with excellence.
Gary Good
Founder - LeaderLegacy
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